I haven’t really had much to say lately. And for all the not blogging I have done, I have done my best to *NOT* do a sorry I haven’t blogged, here is a blog post for you and false promises that I will update more regularly. Sometimes I see the question floating around “Do you blog more for others or for yourself?” I feel I blog for myself. Somehow people started flocking here. I like the comments, for the most part. I may have even done some posts for others, like meme’s. But in the end, writing is an outlet for me. The fact that I have made friends through blogging just makes it more special.
The other day, for no reason that I can muster except that I don’t comment as much or post as much as I use to, I got the comment: As you don’t seem to care about anyone else, you might want to think who cares about you….
Um…ouch. I don’t remember posting anything that said I am a cruel, heartless, uncaring bitch. I can’t figure it out. I tried to decide if I should approach this person by email, and ask them what they meant. But I decided to ignore it. This person has formed some conception of me, and personally I don’t feel I need to convince them that I think their conception of me is wrong. I’m not going to promise them that I will read their blog more or make more comments or try to even guess where this is coming from.
Instead, I choose to blog about it. The comment is there, in the open. It’s fair game to post about. There are some things that I have chosen not to blog about. I figure that is my perrogative. Because to me, blogging is like talking to a group of friends in a crowded restaurant. Anyone can come here and read this. I will keep to myself things I don’t want just anyone to overhear. Maybe, because of this, I don’t have as much to say, so I just listen.
If you want to write me off because of that, all the best to you.
“As you don’t seem to care about anyone else, you might want to think who cares about you….”
or maybe how about we care about lynda and know that if she had something to say, she would damn well say it!
some people need to be shoved up a llama’s butt
I agree with all of what you said.
You haven’t done anything to apologize for and nobody needs to hear such. You shouldn’t feel obligated to post anything like that. It IS your blog, that you use for your own purposes, not for ours. While I concede that any blogger’s unexplained absence is hard sometimes for some of us, I should think “no news is good news” applies rather than the worry that someone just doesn’t like us anymore, for whatever percieved reasons.
Remarks like that do sting, and I was horrified to see it, but decided that as I don’t know everything, I have no idea what might or might not have taken place to make a blogger feel like posting such a thing.
I know you’ve had alot going on, and I feel for you.
I know that lack of a workplace means lack of involvement with other people and that surely restricts the amount of bloggable material any person has.
I know even before all of that went down that you were opting to blog less and use your time for other purposes, and I don’t fault you for it. We all gotta do what we gotta do for us.
You are right. Your blog IS your prerogative, and I like the crowded restaurant theory. I hadn’t considered that…
Whatever you do with your blog and your time I am happy to see you out and about wherever I encounter your posts or your comments. You shouldn’t feel pressured to keep up with the blogging Joneses. I have missed your company, thought about you and worried about you, but I am also accustomed to your disappearances. Your presence is always welcome and appreciated, but never required.
DAYUM. Ouch.
Is it at all possible that person was being sarcastic, thinking they were being funny? Or something?
WOW.
You’re, like, one of the sweetest people in the universe. What the heck is wrong with that person? Bad day and taking it out on you??
People are assholes.
Well, you know… even if you wére an uncaring bitch (which I know you are not) it’s people’s own choice to read or not to read and there is no need to leave a comment like that if he was being serious…
And the other thing is that I am always surprised at people who seem to think that commenting on blogs needs to be reciprocated. That they need to get back what they put in. To me, although that would be nice, it doesn’t work like that.
Anyway. muah! IF he meant it, he’s wrong…
I knew you didn’t care
How about non computer life is happening so you don’t have time to blog as much…..
we know you are around and if you want to comment please do – i get smiles when I see your name on my site.
This is pissing me off just as much as it did when you firts mentioned it last week on Twitter (Sorry I am behind in my blogging…obviously I don’t care, right?)
What I think people need to remember is that these blogs, started by people who just want a place to write, connect with friends and be themselves, are for us and us alone. Yes, as you said, the people who come and read and follow are a great added bonus, but they are not required. Unless you are living off your blog and are working at retaining readers, these are places where we can come and go as we please and do what we want. People should feel privledged to be able to read, not expecting reciprication for their devotion. Right there is a true sign of a real friend.
Shades is right, we are all friends and we worry about each other when we don’t see you have posted in a while. But I am not going to say something like that because I feel like you owe me a post. Blogging freindships are not required, they are a perk.
And I echo pixie’s statement. People are assholes.
I say we blacklist this perosn from the blog world!
Well, I’m like you…I haven’t slowed down as much as you have but I post just for the creativity.
Most folks post when something is on their mind.
It’s not a job and no one should treat it like one.
You know we’re always around and always behind you, Lynda
hey! I was thinking about you tonight so i thought I would pop in and say hi!
So, uh…HI!!
Hoping it was a tongue in cheek comment and not meant in a mean nasty way, sometimes humour does not always shine through in this media….
If it wasnt… then ’sod them’ just ignore people like that, answering often fans the flames….
x
I love your attitude, Lynda. You’re caring AND classy. You handled this perfectly. I’m sorry you had to handle it at all. *hug*